Because there is no essence in the EGO... (क्योंकि अहंकार में कोई सार नहीं है...)

Dear Readers...

In your everyday life, you will often see that where some people are very humble in spite of being successful and powerful.


At the same time, there are also some people who are proud of their power or ability. 






1. It is natural to have some degree of pride in one's successes or abilities and it is also good from the point of view of psychology; But when this pride starts becoming uncontrolled and unreasonable, it takes the form of pride or arrogance and the personality is covered like a stain. It is very important to explain to such a person that being arrogant or boasting is basically a kind of stupidity that is better to avoid.




2. The psychology of an arrogant person is egocentric. He places himself at the center of the universe and interprets everything else from his point of view. The feeling of 'I' becomes its permanent feeling. 

Encouraged by his small successes, he believes that this world is running because of him. It is important to keep a little bit of pride in us, but it is equally important that we be aware of our smallness. Don't have desires or dreams that are impossible to fulfill. Realizing his smallness, a person becomes humble and this humility becomes his strength.




3. The easiest way to understand our own smallness is to read the chapter on Physical Geography or Physics that introduces us to this universe. Those who have not studied at all may think that our earth is the ultimate truth, And the Sun and the Moon are present according to the law to give us light only. Such people see gods (Surya Devta) in the sun and maternal uncles (Chanda Mama) in the moon. Such fantasies are very convenient to be happy. But if we get closer to the truth, then these shimmering beautiful fantasies pile up. 

The fact is that we do not even know any end of this universe. So far we have only known that there are innumerable galaxies in the universe and we are residents of one of these simple galaxies 'Milky-Way'. Like every galaxy, there are innumerable stars in the 'Milky-Way' and we live in the shadow of a very small star (the sun) of those stars. Each star has many planets of its own. The Sun also has 8 known planets, out of which our Earth is a very small planet. There are millions of types of animals living on the earth, out of which one species is ours, which is known as 'Homo-Sapiens'. Almost all homo sapiens or human beings change every 100 years because nature usually does not give them a chance to live more than this. At present only 7 billion Homo-sapiens or humans are present on earth and 100 years from today, probably not one of them will survive. I am one of these 7 billion human beings. I have no more status than this. When a person understands this, he stops boasting about his small power, because he knows that even after acquiring unfathomable wealth and immense power, he will be able to convert his position to a decimal, not more than that.




4. Another way to understand our smallness is to evaluate our personality honestly.  It is proved that the individual has a negligible role in the formation of personality. Many thinkers in psychology also emphasize this point. In simple language, all the characteristics of our personality are based on only two factors - first, what are the qualities we have acquired genetically, and secondly, what are the conditions/circumstances we have got to develop our abilities? If a person is tall, fair, or highly intelligent, it is largely due to genetic traits of which he has no contribution of his own. Similarly, if a person has got a good environment and facilities since childhood, then naturally his personality will improve but he does not contribute in this also. Those who delve into the world of spirituality have an alternative way of realizing their own smallness. Such people believe that this world is the manifestation of God and this feeling is called mysticism in the spiritual world. True mystics have no doubt that not even a leaf can move in this world without the will of God. They also believe that whatever they have in the name of personality is given by God himself and God can take everything away from them at any moment he wants.




** The gist of this discussion is not that one should be deprived of self-confidence or a sense of self-respect. It is necessary to have a sense of pride towards the positive aspects of our personality because it determines our self-confidence, our worldly success, etc. The only question is, how much leeway should we give to our sense of pride? Shall we be filled with a sense of pride even for coincidences of which we have no part in their existence? Should we allow our sense of pride to become so uncontrollable that it tramples on the self-esteem of others? It is better that we bring our pride in sync with the self-glory of others. Stop yourself from being blown away by pride. Maintain a sense of your smallness to some degree or the other. With this mindset, the relationship between the individual and society can be pleasant and positive!!!





Location: Alwar, Rajasthan, India

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